If you feel “not ______ enough,” seeking entry into a more elite circle isn’t necessarily going to make you feel full and complete. There’s a reason why Groucho Marx’s line, “I would never join a club that would have me as a member,” is so often recited. Without self-acceptance, any form of external acceptance feels suspect.
Category: Finding Purpose
Those who will not slip beneath the still surface on the well of grief turning downward through its black water to the place we cannot breathe will never know the source from which we drink, the secret water, cold and clear, nor find in the darkness glimmering the small round coins thrown by those who […]
When death comes like the hungry bear in autumn when death comes and takes all the bright coins from his purse to buy me, and snaps his purse shut; when death comes like the measle-pox; when death comes like an iceberg between the shoulder blades, I want to step through the door full of curiosity, […]
Great leaders start with strong self awareness. The more they know themselves, the better able they are at leading themselves and others. They show up consistently in terms of behavior and values, and, for this reason, others will be inclined to respect their leadership.
What are your blind spots? What might you be surprised to learn that others see in you? And what might you be hiding from them that you ought to reveal?
Everyone in the organization need not be friends, and disagreements should, in fact, be encouraged (to improve decision-making), but the culture should be friendly and open. People should feel encouraged to lead and to help define the organization. When people feel encouraged to belong, they will contribute like they do.
“The Miracle is not to walk on water. The Miracle is to walk on the green Earth, dwelling deeply in the present moment, feeling truly alive.” –Thich Nhat Hanh THE 5 MINUTE BUDDHIST (Printable PDF) Harold Ramis produced over 20 movies, most notably Animal House, Caddy Shack, Ghostbusters, and Groundhog Day. He also followed Buddhist teachings. To […]
Finding Purpose in Life Our days are filled with raising families and building relationships, growing a business or pursuing a career, serving others and our communities, and trying to stay mentally and physically fit. How much time is there really to give consideration to the human purpose–the big Why? The human purpose is and may […]
When an alcoholic reaches for a bottle at ten in the morning or finishes an entire bottle of vodka in one sitting, it’s pretty easy for everyone (including the alcoholic) to see the problem. It’s harder to see alcoholism starting. A drink after work to take the edge off seems pretty innocuous. Since one drink […]
There’s a thread that you follow. It goes among Things that change. But it doesn’t change. People wonder about what you are pursuing. You have to explain about the thread. But it is hard for others to see. While you hold it you can’t get lost. Tragedies happen; people get hurt or die; and you […]
Leadership Reality: Achievement vs. Intimacy As a student, you had your #2 pencil at the ready, pressing against the bubble almost ready to snap when the teacher said, “You can start.” You had another just-as-sharp pencil in your bag as a backup, next to your mini ruler (just the right length for underlining your notes) […]
We become religious, then we turn from it, then we are in need and maybe we turn back. We turn to making money, then we turn to the moral life, then we think about money again. We meet wonderful people, but lose them in our busyness. We’re, as the saying goes, all over the place. […]
Each of us has a world view which is formed based on a certain set of beliefs, values and attitudes that you think is true based on the conditions, environment and experiences you have had since you were born.
When Death Comes by Mary Oliver When death comes like the hungry bear in autumn when death comes and takes all the bright coins from his purse to buy me, and snaps his purse shut; when death comes like the measle-pox; when death comes like an iceberg between the shoulder blades, […]
“I turned my head for a moment and it became my life” – David Whyte A Decision for Life In 1980, I attended Otumoetai College in Tauranga, New Zealand as an AFS student and stayed with a family. When they decided to host a student and when I agreed to live with them, we both only […]